Aftercare unlocked

Foreplay and sex are both physical and mental experiences. Aftercare follows the same patterns. If you’re with a partner, you can continue the intimacy in a non-sexual way by cuddling, talking, and spending attentive time with each other. Aftercare should focus on the specific needs of your partner at that moment (and yourself in return!).

Feeling cared for and listened to is important, which is why just sitting and talking can go so far. But you can also share a shower, get food together, exchange massages, watch something, or listen to some music - whatever will make you feel close.

Sex can be tiring, and spending some passive time together is also a good idea. You don’t have to do much of anything, as long as you’re close to each other if you need something. 

After self care

As well as giving and receiving affection, you can look after yourself in similar ways. Sex can be lighthearted, but it can also become emotionally intense and physically strenuous, so being kind to your physical and mental state is crucial. Create a clean, relaxing environment for yourself, make sure you’re well fed and hydrated, and do something you find enjoyable and calming. 

After hygiene

Aftercare also entails taking the necessary steps to stay clean and healthy after sex. Women are more likely than men to contract UTIs, so peeing after sex is a good way to flush the urinary tract and prevent any nasty bacteria from settling in there. 

When you’re in the moment it’s great, but sex can be a pretty real exchange of bodily fluids, so washing your hands, mouth, and genitals afterwards is recommended. Alternatively, you could make quick use of a baby wipe, or just go the full way and shower.

Staying clean after sex prevents bacterial infection, but it’s also important to keep a watch out for the way that your body feels after sex to catch STDs and stay on top of your general health . If any part of you is persistently achy or sore, or if you have sudden discomfort in your genital area, take steps to get the medical guidance you need. Staying in touch with your body and its developments will be an effective and mindful maintenance tactic.

The important thing to remember with aftercare is that it takes many forms. There’s no set of rules you have to follow. The best thing you can do is communicate with your partner (and yourself!) about what you need and why.

Stay safe, stay happy, 

Love,

Roam x